No matter what anybody says, no one likes receiving negative feedbacks. We know that negative feedbacks are given for us to grow and improve, but we can’t deny that they hurt and sometimes make us angry and want to lash out.
Before you start lashing out and get yourself into trouble, take a deep breath and read these alternatives.
Source: Wise geek
You want to say: “I don’t see your point at all!”
Usually when you don’t see eye to eye with the person giving you negative feedback, the instant response you would give them is that they are wrong. But that’s not always the case, don’t jump into conclusions.
Say this instead: “I don’t understand your point of view, can you give me examples so I can understand?”
There’s nothing wrong with different points of view, especially in the engineering industry. We are all working to make things better and the more ideas people have, the more options we can choose from. Listen to what your colleague or boss is saying, and try to understand their point.
By listening to them and sharing your idea, both parties will be able to see the bigger picture and will hopefully have a better understanding.
You want to say: “You should have told me sooner!”
Let’s say, you’ve submitted a project that you’ve worked on for weeks. Then you suddenly get feedback that you need to change something that would need you to start over. This is exaggerated of course, but we’ve all experienced similar problems. “If only they gave me feedback earlier, I would have mended the problem. Now I have to start from scratch”, just the thought of it is really irritating.
Say this instead: “I wish i received this feedback earlier. Please don’t hesitate to tell me next time so we can avoid this.”
Sometimes, colleagues don’t want to give constructive criticism because they don’t want to insult you, or maybe because they know you don’t respond well to criticism. So learn to be open, and assure them that you are open to constructive criticism.
You want to say: “It won’t happen again”
It may seem like a good response, but it isn’t the best way to let someone know that you’ve acknowledged their feedback.
Say this instead: “Here’s my plan for preventing this from happening again”
By saying this, you are assuring your boss or colleague that you are taking their constructive criticism seriously, and want to correct the issue as well.
No one likes getting negative feedbacks, but knowing how to respond in such situations will surely help you learn from this experience.
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